Neediness is like a drug.
It gives you an adrenalin kick and leaves you wanting for more.
That next fix. That drip feeding that leaves you satisfied until the next hit that you need.
Why does this fear have so much power over you and where does it come from?
How do you let go of this fear and what can you do so that you can look within and detox yourself of your addictive drug?
Neediness comes from lack. It comes from a space of not having enough, not being enough and feeling empty and insecure.
Moving forward is a change that brings up much fear for many.
It is connected to many different and common fears that most aren’t aware of.
Moving forward is about letting go. It is about creating change and disrupting your “comfortable” space. It is about movement and newness. It is about placing yourself in unknown territory. And it is about Faith and Trust.
Moving forward isn’t always so easy for some. They prefer to stay stuck, frustrated and angry.
Blame is an energy that keeps you down.
Blame dis-empowers you.
Blame keeps you stuck.
Blame is allowing yourself to not take personal responsibility for yourself, the way you feel, your actions and your life.
Blame is not aligned to who you truly are.
What is it to blame?
When someone says or does something to you and you feel a certain way…it is not their fault. But you blame.
What is it to love from the Heart?
True and Unconditional Love.
Does Unconditional Love exist?
What does it feel like?
Many of you love with condition. Conditions are borne out of fear. Conditions are about control. Conditions are created so that those with insecurity will not get left behind. So that they will not feel unloved.
To be in an unconditional space is living without fear. It is about being in a space of trust. It is about facing your fears and knowing that you will be ok, no matter the outcome.
How do you create the ‘Perfect Relationship?’
Many are looking for that perfect, flawless experience.
Does it exist?
How can you create peaceful, harmonious relationships?
How can you co-exist in a space where many have different views, ideals, beliefs and habits?
There are really 3 main types of relationships. And in each one different insecurities arise.
Life is a battlefield of survival for some. A fight to the death.
If you have heard of the movie, The Hunger Games, then maybe you can relate it to your life.
In the movie, a government wants to put a stop to the uprising of communities. Removing freedom, voice and choice. Much like many ego/fear driven people who feel threatened by those that live in their heart space. For those who live in ego, need to keep others down.
A selection of 12 contestants are randomly drawn and put into a battlefield to fight amongst each other and the “winner” is the last one standing.
Funnily enough, the last ones standing are the ones who pull away from the conflict of the games. The ones who do not want to participate in ego, fear or hate.
In real life, we are all fighting in our own Hunger Games.
If you knew how much punishing yourself hurt you, then why do you still do it?
You have experienced pain on many levels. Mental, emotional, spiritual, physical. But on the emotional level, this is where you hurt yourself the most.
Keeping yourself in pain isn’t doing you any good. So why do you stay there?
If you were to take a deeper look at the type of ways that you punish yourself, you wouldn’t believe your own eyes.
When another does it, someone who is outside of you, that is when you can clearly see it and you don’t like it one bit. So why do you do it to yourself?
You are what you eat. Everything is a reflection of you. You attract to you what you are.
Every living thing has a vibration. And every vibration attracts to it a similar frequency.
So how do you attract love?
How do you attract anything?
What your vibration gives out, your energy reels it into your life.
If you want to attract love, then you must be love, act in love and believe in love.
“What you resist wallpersists!”
Have you heard this saying before?
It doesn’t seem logical though, does it?
If you want to avoid something, then how is it that you are building it instead?
For it is the same when you run away with all of your problems instead of facing them, they run away with you. They follow you even if you don’t realise it. It may take you years to see that your problems are your closest friends.
The same goes with building walls. Emotional ones.
What you want to keep out, you are actually keeping within.
Why are we not allowed to be who we want to be, have what we want and be free?
Sometimes the perspectives of others pull us back. They make us feel like we are not good enough. That we are not allowed to express ourselves and so on.
But they are not the ones to blame.
We are the ones who must take responsibility for what we accept, how we feel and how we react.
If we are accepting ourselves to feel shamed, we are saying that we are not loved, not accepted and have nothing to offer. That we are nothing.
But deep down that is not the truth. The truth is that there is nothing to be ashamed of. We are all beautiful and unique. And we were not born to fit into the mould that others want us to be in.