We all have fears. They challenge us, anger us, push us into a corner and keep us stuck.
Yet how do you overcome them?
Fears are just emotion. Just like happiness but the opposite.
Fears feel heavy, they are scary, intimidating and quite often a huge barrier where you can’t see what is on the other side.
But if you push fear aside and decide not to look at it closely, it will either slip away and connect itself to you on a deeper level, and it will mostly certainly jump out and scare you just when you thought you had a handle on it.
You have fears. You know what they are.
Are you avoiding them or facing them?
And how do you face them?
Where do you start? How do you overcome them and how do you release them?
Here is a step by step guide to help you understand how to shift what you don’t want.
1. Make a list of all your fears.
Be specific even if it makes you feel sick and even if it is an issue that you have been avoiding for a long time. Be honest, dig deep and expose it for what it is. A fear.
– I feel unworthy in (insert subject) because…
– I will never be able to….
– I do not feel loved…
– I don’t believe I have the capability to be happy…
Whatever your fear is, it is time to get real! Once you start writing you will find that there will be more and more that will just keep flowing.
2. Make a list of what you DO want!
Even if you do not feel that this is possible or can be achieved, it is time to change your focus. It is time to start believing and it is time to begin to create a new story and to start living it.
– I feel worthy…
– I feel loved…
– I am happy…
Make sure that you write this list just as if you were living it now. It is time to shift you in the now. Your focus needs to change and move past where you are.
By noting down the negatives you are just being honest with yourself. You are being real about where you are. You are facing what you don’t want to hear about yourself. And you are expressing these fears out on paper and yes the emotion will come out, and that is perfect.
When you write your positive list make sure that you are getting into the feeling of being in that space even if you aren’t there now.
Just like when you watch a movie, you aren’t in it, yet you are experiencing the emotions and are enrolled in the story. If you need to play some upbeat happy music while you write your happy list, then do so. Whatever will get you in the mood is what you need to do.
3. Take inspired action.
Now it is time to move you away from your fears.
What will it take for you to change and get into the space of your positive list?
It will certainly not happen overnight, you need to contribute to making it happen.
Ways you can take action is to do something every day that makes you feel good.
Do some research on the areas that you feel stuck on to see what steps you can take.
Make a list of actual steps you can take every day to contribute to getting into your happy space.
Find a healer or coach to help you through until you are ok to do it for yourself.
Join a positive group where you can feel inspired to make changes, make new friends and change your focus.
There are many ways to take inspired action. If you believe that there is no way out of your situation, well that is the story that you are just stuck on and nothing will change that unless you choose a different ending.
Facing your fears takes time. It takes courage. It takes being in the moment where you have had enough of being miserable and scared!
4. Focus on what you want! Feel it and believe it! Surrender.
You now have a list of what you don’t want and of what you do want.
In the beginning a good way to keep the focus is to re-read your positive list, keep taking inspired action, get someone to keep you accountable if it helps you, read inspiring books, listen to uplifting music, meditate and the list goes on.
Feel what you want to achieve. Feel the positive person you want to be. You know what happiness feels like. Tap into that.
Whatever it takes, keep your focus on what you want to achieve. And soon over time you will find that naturally you will be merging into that person.
Every time a new fear comes along you will know how to face it. It will take less time for you to clear it, to find a solution, to shift your focus.
Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Fear is just the story you create for yourself. You can uncreate it. You can take action and drive your life in a different direction.
Whatever you think you can’t do, you’re right.
And whatever you think you CAN do, then you are right also.
Whatever you choose to become, just remember that it was you who chose it.
Life didn’t choose it for you. You chose that life!
Create a new happy ending!