Ego and Soul.
Two sides of the coin. One thrives on insecurity, the other thrives on love, truth and grace.
We are all black and white. Yin and yang. Day and night.
We need to be all shades so that we can grow, expand and come back to who we truly are.
We are souls. We vibrate the energy of a soul. But many become lost. Many lose their way. And many turn to the ego self to survive.
Self Love is often misunderstood. It is not about looking in the mirror and telling yourself that you love you.
Self Love reflects all of our choices in life. It is who we are, who we become, how we treat ourselves and let others treat us, it is in our journey and experiences in life.
When you practice Self Love, it is truly life changing.
Some of the misconceptions of Self Love, is what it actually is.
If you keep getting the same experiences in life where you are taken advantage of, disrespected, feel alone or fear your journey in life you are not practicing Self Love.
Pain is not fun. And if you choose not to learn from it, it can really hurt. It can drag on and you may feel like you are in a never-ending cesspool of quick sand. That your life is falling apart, that you have no support, that your outlook on life is negative, that things will never get better and so on…
The victim mentality.
Because being a victim of your life’s tragedies can sometimes be “easier” then getting up, dusting yourself off and taking the bull by the horns. Seeing what needs to be seen. Making a different choice. Creating a different path.
Things don’t have to be perfect. Things will never be perfect. You have to create the moment of perfection to start anything.
That moment of perfection will never be perfect in itself. But in this moment it is perfect because you have started. Everything else will catch up.
You have made a promise to yourself about creating a beginning. There will be a middle. And not an end. For the journey will continue. There will be twists and turns, stops and starts, but you will keep moving.
That is what needs to happen. Move.
I admit, I tend to get caught up in the moment of when I want something really bad, that logic and intuition goes out the window and I say, YES! Only to realise, was that really what I wanted?
When you put an idea, an offer or a desire out to the Universe and it comes back to you, it can get really exciting. But you have to really look at what it is.
Is it what you truly desired, or are there just parts of it of what you wanted?
I look at everything in my life as a sign. Sometimes I can miss them, as when life happens, stresses etc, you can easily just not see what is right there in front of you. So these signs come again, in a different way, bigger, bolder, more painful etc. They are always there. Do we always see them?
Being in the wrong place at the wrong time is never the wrong place.
We all want love! We are beings that crave attention, love, nurturing and care.
But how do we identify what Soul Love is? Is there even such a thing?
Soul Love is not what you think it is. It is not always the connection of finding your “soul mate”, a term that is completely overused and mostly identified with a love partner.
Soul Love is your soul’s way of teaching you, allowing you to grow, it brings you lessons in life and love, offers you opportunities, takes away opportunities. All in all, it is what makes you, YOU!
How do we deal with our own stuff, when we just want to give it to someone else to deal with?
Let’s admit it, we have all done this at one point or another.
We want another to take away our pain. We don’t want to process it, see it, or deal with it.
It’s just too hard.
Yet the biggest step to self empowerment is to admit that something is wrong. Admit that life isn’t going the way we want it to. See where you are, and change directions if it is not flowing the way you want.
Have you ever felt strongly about something in your life, and felt positive, excited and hopeful and just knew that it would come to fruition soon?
Only what you were experiencing currently, what you were living and seeing all around you wasn’t like that vision you knew about or felt.
It can be hard to keep up the hope when what you know about hasn’t happened. And when you see what is currently, which is not what you know about.
So how to get around this?
Value means something different to all of us.
If you are feeling undervalued anywhere in your life, then you will have easy triggers that will affect you. If you are not feeling appreciated in relationships, others who have a fulfilling relationship may trigger what you lack.
If you feel undervalued in finances or income, then others who are doing well in this area may trigger you.
You cannot be triggered unless you have an underlying issue already. This is an easy way to determine that you have an issue in the first place…if you are reacting to it.
