Neediness is like a drug.
It gives you an adrenalin kick and leaves you wanting for more.
That next fix. That drip feeding that leaves you satisfied until the next hit that you need.
Why does this fear have so much power over you and where does it come from?
How do you let go of this fear and what can you do so that you can look within and detox yourself of your addictive drug?
Neediness comes from lack. It comes from a space of not having enough, not being enough and feeling empty and insecure.
Blame is an energy that keeps you down.
Blame dis-empowers you.
Blame keeps you stuck.
Blame is allowing yourself to not take personal responsibility for yourself, the way you feel, your actions and your life.
Blame is not aligned to who you truly are.
What is it to blame?
When someone says or does something to you and you feel a certain way…it is not their fault. But you blame.
How do you create the ‘Perfect Relationship?’
Many are looking for that perfect, flawless experience.
Does it exist?
How can you create peaceful, harmonious relationships?
How can you co-exist in a space where many have different views, ideals, beliefs and habits?
There are really 3 main types of relationships. And in each one different insecurities arise.
Life is a battlefield of survival for some. A fight to the death.
If you have heard of the movie, The Hunger Games, then maybe you can relate it to your life.
In the movie, a government wants to put a stop to the uprising of communities. Removing freedom, voice and choice. Much like many ego/fear driven people who feel threatened by those that live in their heart space. For those who live in ego, need to keep others down.
A selection of 12 contestants are randomly drawn and put into a battlefield to fight amongst each other and the “winner” is the last one standing.
Funnily enough, the last ones standing are the ones who pull away from the conflict of the games. The ones who do not want to participate in ego, fear or hate.
In real life, we are all fighting in our own Hunger Games.
We all have a money story. Each individual’s experience is self created despite what that story is.
If you are in a place where your story is one of lack or poverty, chances are that your beliefs will highlight that you did not create this.
Those that are in a more abundant space, will certainly own up to their story, that they did indeed create their current reality.
When you are stuck in a negative money story, you create experiences, cycles, patterns and loops that just keep repeating themselves.
If you knew how much punishing yourself hurt you, then why do you still do it?
You have experienced pain on many levels. Mental, emotional, spiritual, physical. But on the emotional level, this is where you hurt yourself the most.
Keeping yourself in pain isn’t doing you any good. So why do you stay there?
If you were to take a deeper look at the type of ways that you punish yourself, you wouldn’t believe your own eyes.
When another does it, someone who is outside of you, that is when you can clearly see it and you don’t like it one bit. So why do you do it to yourself?
When you play small, who is it really serving?
When you limit yourself or be something you are not, who are you making happy?
Unfortunately this is a common theme among humanity.
You play and splash about in the small pond because you think that you will drown in the big pond.
You dumb yourself down so that others will be happy. So that others will follow you. So that others will love you.
But what part of you do they really love? The limiting part of you?
Or the magnificent part? A part you haven’t even touched upon yet?
Every relationship is the mirror of you. Simple.
It is a hard concept to understand when you don’t see it. But if you choose to look deeper within this theory you will see patterns that match your own.
What comes forth in your experience is what is vibrating from within.
Even those pesky people in your space who are needy, controlling, unsupportive, addictive, unloving, uncommitting etc.
They all reflect some part of you.