When you see what you want to see or believe what you want to believe, you have fear goggles on.
Fear goggles hide the truth of what is real.
Fear goggles hide you behind a mask and distort what you see, so that you only see the limited picture of what you are seeing.
Much like beer goggles, fear goggles do not show you what is the truth with a clear head. They distort your image.
Neediness is like a drug.
It gives you an adrenalin kick and leaves you wanting for more.
That next fix. That drip feeding that leaves you satisfied until the next hit that you need.
Why does this fear have so much power over you and where does it come from?
How do you let go of this fear and what can you do so that you can look within and detox yourself of your addictive drug?
Neediness comes from lack. It comes from a space of not having enough, not being enough and feeling empty and insecure.
Blame is an energy that keeps you down.
Blame dis-empowers you.
Blame keeps you stuck.
Blame is allowing yourself to not take personal responsibility for yourself, the way you feel, your actions and your life.
Blame is not aligned to who you truly are.
What is it to blame?
When someone says or does something to you and you feel a certain way…it is not their fault. But you blame.
How do you create the ‘Perfect Relationship?’
Many are looking for that perfect, flawless experience.
Does it exist?
How can you create peaceful, harmonious relationships?
How can you co-exist in a space where many have different views, ideals, beliefs and habits?
There are really 3 main types of relationships. And in each one different insecurities arise.
Life is a battlefield of survival for some. A fight to the death.
If you have heard of the movie, The Hunger Games, then maybe you can relate it to your life.
In the movie, a government wants to put a stop to the uprising of communities. Removing freedom, voice and choice. Much like many ego/fear driven people who feel threatened by those that live in their heart space. For those who live in ego, need to keep others down.
A selection of 12 contestants are randomly drawn and put into a battlefield to fight amongst each other and the “winner” is the last one standing.
Funnily enough, the last ones standing are the ones who pull away from the conflict of the games. The ones who do not want to participate in ego, fear or hate.
In real life, we are all fighting in our own Hunger Games.
Greed stems from need.
Need connects to desperation.
Desperation lacks from love.
All connect into each other.
You may not think you are greedy, but how much are you taking from others that you don’t need to be taking?
You have it all within you. So why aren’t you building upon that and increasing your own inner wealth?
When you take and take and take, it is because you are always longing for more outside of you. You have this idea and belief that you don’t have enough.
We all have a money story. Each individual’s experience is self created despite what that story is.
If you are in a place where your story is one of lack or poverty, chances are that your beliefs will highlight that you did not create this.
Those that are in a more abundant space, will certainly own up to their story, that they did indeed create their current reality.
When you are stuck in a negative money story, you create experiences, cycles, patterns and loops that just keep repeating themselves.
If you knew how much punishing yourself hurt you, then why do you still do it?
You have experienced pain on many levels. Mental, emotional, spiritual, physical. But on the emotional level, this is where you hurt yourself the most.
Keeping yourself in pain isn’t doing you any good. So why do you stay there?
If you were to take a deeper look at the type of ways that you punish yourself, you wouldn’t believe your own eyes.
When another does it, someone who is outside of you, that is when you can clearly see it and you don’t like it one bit. So why do you do it to yourself?
Scarcity is a deep fear that people accept as being ok.
To rise above it brings about much challenge, much shame and much hardship.
Scarcity is not just about not having enough money. It reflects all parts of life.
Scarcity = “Scare City”.
You keep yourself in a city of fear. You surround yourself with such shame and loneliness that if you were to step outside of that circle, you would be dragged right back in. You know nothing else.
This is how scarcity affects many areas of your life.
Why are we not allowed to be who we want to be, have what we want and be free?
Sometimes the perspectives of others pull us back. They make us feel like we are not good enough. That we are not allowed to express ourselves and so on.
But they are not the ones to blame.
We are the ones who must take responsibility for what we accept, how we feel and how we react.
If we are accepting ourselves to feel shamed, we are saying that we are not loved, not accepted and have nothing to offer. That we are nothing.
But deep down that is not the truth. The truth is that there is nothing to be ashamed of. We are all beautiful and unique. And we were not born to fit into the mould that others want us to be in.